I have wondered this for many years and I still don’t have
an answer. Why do women stay in abusive relationships? What is the allure that
keeps you from standing on your own two feet and leaving a man that continually
physically, mentally or verbally abuses you?
Who am I to judge you ask? Have I ever been in a situation like
this? No I haven’t but someone very close to me has and I live with her in that
life. I saw what it did to her physically and mentally. I saw the way she gave
up on life, how she seemed to waste away as a person. She didn’t seem to be
like the person I knew and loved.
No matter how many times I begged and pleaded her to leave,
if not for herself then at least for me, she would always say no. I was on the
verge of letting go and walking away from the one person who I love with all my
heart. Thankfully in our case a miracle happened and the abuser changed his
ways. For that I will be eternally grateful but I always wonder what would have
happened had it not.
I still have so many questions as to why women stay. And
please don’t tell me you love him and he is a good guy. There is no way in hell
he is a good guy. Good guys don’t beat their girlfriends/ fiancés/ wives to a
pulp. They don’t run her down and emotionally abuse her. No, good guys are the
ones that treat you like a princess and make you feel good about yourself. They
lift you up and would never dare lay a hand on you.
Is it that you feel you deserve what you are getting? Do you
think you are not good enough and he is the only person who will love you? Do you
think this is what love is supposed to feel like? Are you too scared to stay
alone?
Well let me tell you something! You don’t deserve it! Not at
all. No matter what you have done, no woman deserves it. There are other ways
to resolve issues and being abusive is definitely not one of them. You are good
enough. Good enough for you and good enough for someone who will love you the
right way! Someone who will cherish you and be the man you need. And no, that
is not real love. Real love is kind and compassionate. It is caring, it is
healing and it is nurturing.
So do you stay because you are too scared to stay alone? To
scare to take this world on by yourself? I see it so much lately. Women going from
one man to another, just because they don’t like their own company and they don’t
want to be alone. Or they need the justification of a man. Ladies wake up. You are independent and
strong. You don’t need a man to validate you. Try standing on your own and
being everything you thought you need from a man.
Don’t let an abusive man keep you from living the life you
deserve. Stand up and leave him. You deserve better and you will find
better. But first find yourself. Find the
person you were before you were blinded by this man. Learn to love yourself and
then the right man will come along and love you even more!
We are women not punching bags. We are humans and don’t deserve
to be screamed at and violated. You deserve better ladies so let’s stand up
against the abuse. Let us show men that we are strong. Strong enough to leave
and be who we are meant to be.
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