Negativity is just insecurity!

I watched a very sad but really inspirational video of Jordan Bone, who was paralysed in an accident 10 years ago, and now has only minimal use of her hands. But despite her disability she has taught herself to apply her makeup every day. Before Jordan made this video, explaining why she holds her makeup brushes the way she does in her videos, she used to get horrible comments from viewers.  Which is the point I am getting at and the point that Jordan was getting at too. Why is there need for such negative and hurtful comments?

Why do you stay?

I have wondered this for many years and I still don’t have an answer. Why do women stay in abusive relationships? What is the allure that keeps you from standing on your own two feet and leaving a man that continually physically, mentally or verbally abuses you?

 

Don't be a mean girl....!

Being that it is Women’s Day this month, I thought this post would be appropriate for what I and many others witnessed yesterday. I always thought that we as women (and bloggers) would stand up for each other, be kind and have each other’s backs, but I am not too sure anymore.

Yesterday South African Beauty Bloggers saw a lot of cattiness and bitchiness that could have been avoided, if we all respected and stood up for each other. I am not going to elaborate about what happened but the level of disrespect I saw on twitter, from one blogger to another, made me want to back away and never return.

Younger bloggers tweeting mean things to veteran bloggers and being all high and mighty. This in my eyes is very unprofessional and childish. Showing these veteran bloggers so much disrespect is seriously shocking. I take it like this, if these veterans hadn’t paved the way for us, we wouldn’t have the knowledge we have now. We wouldn’t be able to have the credibility we have now with so many beauty brands. So disrespecting them is seriously not the way to go.

I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion but to go on twitter and call the blogger out, while all the while saying “you want us all to get along”, is really contradictory. Rather than tweeting these mean girl tweets, why not email the said blogger and chat it out, like adults. No you rather go on like high school girls who obviously never left. Tactfulness is a powerful thing and I honestly think it is something everyone should learn.

Being all mean on twitter is a negative reflection of not only you as a person, but also your brand. Many PR companies and brands are constantly on twitter and I would hate to know what they are thinking when they see things like this.  I don’t think brands want to be associated with bloggers who carry on like children.

Come on ladies, let’s rather leave the cattiness and bitchiness to high school girls and be ladies. Ladies who have values and respect each other. Let’s build each other up and be there for one another. Whether you are a newbie or a veteran, respect can go along way and will definitely make blogging in South Africa much stronger. Don’t be a mean girl.

With time we all change...

I can’t believe I have been blogging for 6 months today. I honestly never thought I would get this far. Not because I didn’t think I could do it, but because I didn’t think anyone would read it. But you have and I am eternally grateful.

Life Lately...

I’ve never done this before, but I have reached such a slump that I thought maybe it would be better to get it all off my chest. Life lately has been an emotional rollercoaster. From a little one who is playing up to me just feeling like I am taking 20 steps back. I know there is always a light at the end of the tunnel but I just can’t seem to find it right now.

Losing a friend

Losing a friend can be hard but losing your best friend? That is worse than a break up. It is strange that things can go so wrong in such a short space of time. I have lost many friends throughout my life; when I left primary school and then when I left high school. I never really had a best friend while growing up, so when I finally found that all-time best friend, I thought I could jump through the roof.

What is a dad?

The saying goes “Anyone can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad!” and I would have to agree.  I have been on both sides of the spectrum, where I have a loving dad but I also have a person who was only the “father” to my son. I have to say it is a bittersweet place to be.

Having faith & letting go...

Have you ever wanted something so badly, that you push it away? It is something that you have desired for so long and now that it seems to be coming true, you just can’t leave it alone?  It’s like a scab after a wound, you know under the scab is a healed part, but you just can’t leave it alone. So you pull at it but all you end up doing is creating another sore. (Sorry for that analogy) Sometimes it is best to just let things be. If it is meant to be it will be.

Time to say NO!

They say your job is the place where you spend 85% of your time so you have to enjoy what you do… And up until yesterday I did. If you read my post about getting lost, you will know that I have been feeling rather down lately. Like there has to be more to life than this endless rat race.  Yesterday was a turning point in my job, a day where I felt like packing up my stuff and walking out. Have you ever felt like that?

When is enough, enough?

When do you say “enough is enough?” Lately I have gone through some of the worst time with family and it has left me puzzled and concerned.  Many things were said, lines were crossed, and I’m sitting here now wondering where it all went wrong. As a family I thought we were brought up with ethics and values. But I seem to have been mistaken.

A Dating App Story & how to stay safe

This is my 100^th post… I honestly can’t believe I have stuck with it for so long. But I’m super happy I have. Thank you to all of you have read my blog, it means the world to me.

So I wanted to share with you what has happened over the past few days and maybe be able to help a few of you out. I have always been curious of dating apps, although I’m very apprehensive and scared, I downloaded the app Lovoo. It was easy to set up and just required your email address and a password. Simple enough. Profile Pic and you are on your way. Now I don’t want to get into how the app works, that’s not why I’m here.

10 fun ways to stop feeling down...

We have all had those days, right? You wake up sad and instead of feeling happy, you feel like you have all the world’s problems on your shoulders. Unfortunately there isn't any conclusive answer as to why we feel this way but there are ways to feel better. Now I’m not talking about your classic psychology tips on feeling better, but rather fun ways, ways that you can enjoy.

Dear N...

How apt that I’m writing you this letter on your birthday? It feels like a lifetime ago that we met, when it’s only been 8 years. Although we no longer speak, for reasons only you know, I know that I will never forget you. I’m writing this letter to you so I can finally let go of everything we had.

Time to get lost...

Have you thought about how hectic our lives are? We wake up early and go to bed late. We are continuously rushing so that we aren't late for things that are actually not that important. I know some people love that lifestyle, and I have to admit that some days it’s ok but not all day every day. And what? Are we only supposed to relax on the two days we have off? Somehow that doesn't seem to be living to me.

Letter to my younger self...

Dear Shalane

I’m writing this letter to you from the future. I know, spooky stuff, right? But I promise you it is real. It’s kinda cool here but as you can expect life has its ups and downs. I wanted to give you some advice, if just to make your journey a little smoother. Some of the things might not make sense now but I promise in the future they will.

For my sis...

Today I wanted to do something a little different. We all have that one friend who seems more like a sister than anything else, right? Well today I want to send a tribute to her. No matter how much we talk, I don’t think she knows the impact she has had in my life. So to Christine, my sister, my person and my exit buddy, this is for you!

The hummingbird locked in the cage

Let me tell you a bit about myself before I get into this post. Although you probably know a lot about me already. Since I was a young girl, I've been the type of person who doesn't like to be told how to do things, from the way I dress to the way I look. I’m that free spirited friend who seems to be in another world. Always doing things on my own and never paying attention to the rules. I love to be creative and don’t like to be confined to one thing for the rest of my life.  This is how this post has come about….

Old soul in a young body

Old Soul… we have all heard it somewhere, sometime or other, right? But what does it mean? An old soul can be described as someone who doesn't fit in with mainstream things. They have their own way of doing things and seem to be very wise. This seems very much like me but because there are so many things that define “old soul” I've put together a list of some of the characteristics of old souls…

Friends with your EX?

You have seen it in every teen drama from the 00’s till now. Boy and girl in love, they have a fight, break up and then are all of a sudden super best friends. Even MTV has two hit shows involving ex’s (Geordie Shore and Ex on the Beach). I don’t know about you but I could never do that. I’m a firm believer that if you are friends with your ex after your break up, you never really loved that person to being with. 

5 things I learnt about myself at breaking point!

Last week I was severally tired, so tired that I was at breaking point. As I was sitting outside trying to calm myself, I came to a few conclusions about myself. It’s honestly amazing what you can discover about yourself when you are on the verge of your mental limits.