Mr Right or Mr Wonderful?

As you get older you realise it’s time you find someone to settle down with. Someone to come home to every night, someone to look after and someone who looks after you. And usually in our heads that someone is called Mr Right. Or is it?

A good guy pal told me the other day that we are waiting for Mr Right when actually we should be waiting for Mr Wonderful. We were talking about why I’m still single and I said I hadn't found Mr Right yet. He said Mr Right only wants one thing, rather wait for Mr Wonderful, he is in it for the long haul. At that very moment something clicked inside me. He was right about the whole thing.

No one is perfect. No one is the full 10/10 package. Your prince charming will always have a flaw. So why are we always searching for Mr Right? What is the point? Why aren't we rather looking for someone to complement us? Someone who we will fit together with.

If you read my previous post here, you will see that sometimes we need to look past the “looks” and rather concentrate on the inside. Look for someone who is going to be there when times are tough, someone who will be there to share in your joy and someone who can make you laugh when all you want to do is cry.

Lately I have been feeling very alone and lost. Like something is missing. Like there is a void in my heart that I need to fill. You know that feeling, right? Someone to hold you tight and be there for you. I did my whole life thing wrong. I had my son first so I think this is just my heart clock saying I think it’s time you start thinking about getting married. Don’t get me wrong, I have an amazing son who gives me so much love that my heart should be over full, but there is still a part of me that wants love from a guy.

But I don’t want it from the wrong guy. That’s why I honestly think it’s better to wait than to be with someone who you think is Mr Right when he isn't. Mr Wonderful is the guy who is going to stick by your side. He will make you chicken soup when you are sick and do the dishes when your nails are wet. That’s the kind of guy I want. I want someone who isn't ashamed of me and who wants to share with the world that he loves me. And if that means that I have to be single for a little while longer that’s fine. At least I know that when I do find Mr Wonderful he will be in it for the long haul.

Do you believe in Mr Right or Mr Wonderful? Let me know.